Couple’s therapy with a psychologist or counsellor
Why have couple’s therapy with a counsellor?
Highs and lows are common in a relationship. It is perfectly normal to argue, to disagree, or to have a ‘relationship crisis’, as long as they remain isolated incidents and that harmony generally prevails at the heart of the relationship. When a couple’s situation is such that the two people can no longer put up with each other, or that communication becomes practically impossible or at the least is very difficult, then it is worth calling a counsellor to try and re-establish communication and review the problems. Couple’s therapy is there to help you to find solutions.
How does couple’s therapy with a psychologist work?
Couple’s therapy starts with a general interview so that the counsellor can get to know the couple’s background: the length of the relationship, the respective professions and personality traits of each, etc.
Next, the role of the relationship counsellor is to find a way of analysing the cause of the problems which punctuate the relationship and re-establish harmony. A counsellor mustn’t be confused with a mediator: a counsellor does not judge or arbitrate. In couple’s therapy, they work to find ways in and explanations for the way each person works, and to build or rebuild bridges of communication. Sometimes the true causes of a couple’s problem can be found in unexpected facts: it could be a traumatic event in one or the other’s past, or the start of depression for example.
It is important for the two people to realise that couple’s therapy involves introspection and hard work so that together with the counsellor there are ways out of the problems raised.
And what if couple’s therapy leads to separation?
Often couples turn to a relationship counsellor as a last resort, considering therapy to be “a last chance solution” to “save the relationship”. The vocation of a relationship counsellor is anything but, and can be the means of a deep strengthening of the relationship, which leads to better understanding, equal respect, and lasting harmony rediscovered. psychologist psychotherapist counselor counsellor
Sometimes a relationship counsellor makes the couple aware of the need for separation for the well-being of each party. The counsellor can then continue to work with the couple through this process of transition, making it as smooth as possible.